Show 29 – Breaking free from domestic abuse – an interview with Andrew Pain.

“𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘶𝘱 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 – 𝘐’𝘮 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘋𝘐𝘠. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘬𝘪𝘤𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘣𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘮 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘭 𝘴𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴!”

According to the Office for National Statistics, Andrew Pain is one of 699,000 men who experienced domestic abuse, in the UK, during the year ending 2022, usually at the hands of their female partner.

“𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘶𝘭𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘦.”

It wasn’t until a female neighbour heard the screams and shouts coming from Andrew’s house, as he was being attacked by his former wife, and the neighbour said to him: “You know this domestic abuse don’t you?” that he made the decision that something had to change.

During this episode of Jordan’s Space, you can hear how Andrew finally made a decision to leave the relationship and how, following a difficult few years, he rebuilt his life. He, now, shares his story with audiences from school students to adults to help them spot the signs that they might be in an abusive relationship.

Andrew also supports men’s mental health and has recently launched his podcast ‘Men on Show’ where he interviews ordinary men with amazing stories:

Over a 3 year period, from 2019, Kent and Medway Suicide Prevention Programme worked with Kent Police to highlight that 30% of all suspected suicides locally are individuals who have been impacted by domestic abuse, either as a victim or perpetrator.

If the subject of domestic abuse is important to you, we’d encourage you to listen to this episode and hear from Andrew as he shares his philosophical and at times, humorous take on his experience and his message of hope for anyone who finds themselves trapped in an abusive relationship.